By Gay Hendricks
I once saw a news segment on television about a man who’d once been extremely obese but had lost weight.
His weight loss journey started one night when he found himself in front of the refrigerator and realized that he wasn’t really hungry.
All of a sudden it was as if he’d woken up from some strange slumber or trance. Why was he here? What was he searching for? Why was he in the kitchen again a short time after having finished a large meal?
That was a turning point for that man. He vowed to never again fall “back asleep” and eat unconsciously again. He began to pay close attention to when he was hungry and when he wasn’t, and he went on to lose more than 120 pounds.
You can appreciate that the story is a lot more complicated than that, but the point is that we all, at some point, have found ourselves in a trance in front of the refrigerator.
How many times have you yourself been craving something when you’re not really hungry?
We all do it once in awhile, but some of us do it on a regular basis. For example, do you eat:
If you nodded yes to even one of these examples, and you have a weight problem, then you may want to consider the idea that you’re eating for reasons other than being hungry.
And this factor alone could be the very thing keeping you from permanently losing your extra fat.
Let me explain…
Maybe you already agree with the experience that you eat when you’re not hungry. You eat to celebrate, be social, or to follow religious or cultural traditions.
Yes, there are times we eat when we’re not hungry, and some of these reasons are socially acceptable and, for the most part, not harmful or contributing to overweight.
But what about when you eat to avoid certain feelings – when you’re bored, lonely, angry, or sad?
Or what about when you feel full or satiated, and keep eating and have NO idea why?
You just sit on the couch and mindlessly go through an entire bag of chips, then feel disgusted with yourself afterward.
There are two main reasons why you feel a compulsion to eat when you’re not hungry (and then feel guilty about it afterward):
If someone would have told me that I had made a commitment to being fat when I was 25 and weighed over 300 pounds, I would have accused them of being crazy.
Of COURSE I was committed to being thin! Counting calories, dieting and my girth had almost become a point of obsession with me. I didn’t want to be fat, who would?
But seeing my results spoke of a different reality.
In life, all you need to do is look at your results to see what, in fact, you’re committed to. Are you stuck in a terrible job and have been complaining for years? Are you in a relationship that brings out the worst in you, but nothing changes no matter what you do? Are you still in debt despite having acquired extra money here and there? Then you’re committed to being unhappy and broke.
Your results reflect what you’re really committed to. And if you’re fat and have been most of your adult life, guess what? You’re committed to being fat.
To get out of this cycle, you must first uncover all your unconscious commitments, and then learn how to make better, ENLIGHTENED commitments instead.
Was this a problem 200 or more years ago? Probably. But it wasn’t until very palatable and highly processed food was available to us almost 24/7 in the last half century that it’s made it all that much easier to be unconsciously committed to getting fat and staying fat.
For the longest time – up until I was 25 – there was something about my life I wasn’t ready to face.
I had been following in my dead father’s footsteps in more ways than one, almost from the time I was a young boy. My compulsion to overeat and smoke was actually my spirit’s way of dealing with something painful from my past.
It wasn’t until I faced that and really allowed myself to deeply be with that reality that I was able to stop overeating and quit smoking 2-3 packs of cigarettes a day.
When there’s something you need to face about yourself and your life but can’t, you will subconsciously use food and other substances as a way to distract yourself, numb yourself or soothe yourself.
The only way to break that cycle is to face whatever it is head-on, no matter how painful, embarrassing or sad.
What do you need to face about yourself and your life?
I tell my story in the program with the intention to help you see that we all have things about ourselves and our lives that have traumatized us in some way, but we don’t need to suffer with these spiritual and emotional wounds forever.
The program will help you uncover the unconscious reasons you’re engaging in unhealthy patterns, how to recognize those patterns and reverse them reliably.
You’ll learn highly-effective, natural techniques that will allow you to make better choices with food, so you’re no longer compulsively eating when you’re not hungry or eating things you know don’t work well with your metabolism.
Instead of using food to “stuff down” your feelings or elevate your mood, you’ll discover how to tap into your creative essence to free yourself from the programming that’s been keeping you stuck in an unhealthy state.
Unless you know how to connect with the creative source in yourself, you will always feel “hungry” for something, and you may reach for that bag of chips, that pint of ice cream, that beer or cigarette.
What you’ll consistently find is that food, alcohol and nicotine are poor substitutes for a deep, organic spiritual connection to your true self. That’s why the hunger doesn’t go away.
Overeating will never give you that kind of spiritual satisfaction as will finding your life purpose or knowing who you really are and loving yourself fully.
Just like the story of the man at the start of this email, you’ll have a moment of realization that may change everything for you.